High Speed Low Drag

I was sitting in my hairstylist’s chair this past Friday catching up on the last eight weeks of each others’ lives since we had last seen each other, and she mentioned the term “High Speed Low Drag.” This is a military term meaning very efficient.

This term resonated with me because I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection on my work habits, how I interact with other colleagues, how I manage staff, etc. It’s funny how others perceive you, and this sounds bizarre, but my entire life people have commented on the way I walk. Not only is it loud (those of you who work with me can attest to how it sounds on the hardwood floors), but it’s always with a purpose. And I believe my walk reflects the way I work (actually, I used this as a way to describe myself today). I’ve always told people “I have one speed,” which meant that I walk at the speed that I work, think, do, etc.

Sometimes this high-speed mentality can work against me because I cruise through life’s little moments and, often, I have to remind myself to enjoy not only the destination but the process that gets you there. This mentality circles back to my 2018 Word of the Year, which is Presence. I continually find myself thinking three steps ahead. I mean, you kind of have to as a planner and a mama.  But some of the most beautiful moments are in the slow times or the quiet atmospheres.

So, I have decided that for the rest of the year, I am going to focus on a healthy balance of two things: presence in my personal life and high speed low drag in my professional life. Outside work, I am going to cherish the time spent with friends and family, enjoy the scenery a little bit more and say no things that make me constantly utter the word “busy.” And during work, I am going to keep a kicking butt and taking names with a full speed ahead attitude. What are you goals to being your best self? I’d love to hear them from you!

 

Five Podcasts To Listen To Right Now

I do love music, but usually the radio suffices for me when I’m on a road trip or need some background music. And audiobooks never really were my jam because I’m old school, and I really appreciate holding an actual book. Plus, I love the smell of Barnes & Noble (anyone else….or am I just weird?) So podcasts have quickly become a favorite of mine. In fact, a little giddy excitement rushes over me when I see that one of my favorite podcasts have added a new episode.

So, I thought I would share with you five of my favorite podcasts that I highly recommend listening to now!

For the Girl Boss: The Goal Digger Podcast

I started listening to this podcast far before Jenna Kutcher and “Mr. Six Pack” went viral. In fact, I feel like I have gotten a fair share of my friends listening to her show. Maybe it’s because Jenna is a wedding photographer lived (until recently) in the same town that my mom grew up in and some of my family still lives in. Talk about a girl after my own heart. And on top of it, she has grown her business from a small wedding photographer into a million-dollar business coaching empire. If you need your weekly dose of girl boss inspiration, Jenna and her guests are definitely worth the listen!

For Anyone: How I Built This
This is a podcast I have talked about with a countless number of people. It really appeals to all types, both young and old, male or female, podcast lover or not. I think it’s because this show unfolds the details behind some of our most beloved brands and businesses. Plus, everyone enjoys a good behind-the-scenes look at some of America’s most successful businesses.

For the Mama: Nursing & Cursing
Five mamas get on the mic each week to entertain me to the point where I am crying laughing. I even listen to this podcast while I’m working out because it has me so entertained that I can crush a 30-minute workout without even realizing it. Regardless of the type of parent you are or how many children you have, any mom can relate with these women. And I’m not going to lie that it makes me feel slightly better about the decisions I make because some of their confessions are pretty outrageous. “Put down your coffee, and grab a glass of wine” as they say and get ready for some side-splitting laughter.

For the CoMo Resident: ProFresh Podcast
Anyone could listen to this podcast, regardless of his or her location, but this one has a little “hometown” pride connected to it. I say “hometown” because although I an not originally from Columbia, it has become my home away from home, and I am beginning to rival the amount of years I spent in Wisconsin with the number of years I’ve lived here. Kristen, owner of Hoot Design Co., and Sydney,  a copywriter at Hoot Design Co. tackle topics in the workplace, chat with female professionals and give a fresh look at societal norms when it comes to a professional setting.

For the Event Planner: #EventIcons
You know you love the industry you’re working in when you continue to get jazzed about the topic event in non-work settings. I’m going to be totally honest that I struggle with good event planning podcasts. This is the best one I’ve discovered thus far. The podcast has great information, but I wouldn’t say it’s the most entertaining podcast. So if you have any suggestions, I would love them!

An neutral, organic styled shoot highlighting the senses

As Kelsi Kliethermes and I sat down for coffee what is now months ago, she described in vivid detail, a vision she had. The description that stuck out the most to me was, “I want to design a shoot that really embodies the senses.”

That line really resonated with me because events are far more than pretty floral arrangements and a good time. They are the foundation of beautiful memories and those experiences are remembered through the senses. Plus, I thought it was so refreshing to hear a photographer say that since photography uses one sense to evoke emotion.

After seeing these gorgeous images, I was immediately overcome by a few things. First, I was ecstatic about how one vision could so seamlessly come together with the right team. Second, I was blown away by how much raw emotion was created with a staged wedding and how much I could feel the experience of the day through the sensual elements.

As the shoot coordinator, my main goal was to make Kelsi’s vision come to life, and I must say I think we nailed it! The images she wanted were supposed to be soft, white and neutral, organic, natural and have a Tuscan flair. Oh, and did I mention that Kelsi shoots with film? Yes, real, old school film photography! Take a look…

The styled shoot took place at a beautiful new venue about an hour north of Columbia called Emerson Fields. The couple who owns it, Steve and Amelia Holder, are some of the most genuine people I’ve ever met. And from all the behind the scenes Amelia posts on Instagram as well as seeing the venue in person, it’s obvious their whole family has poured their hearts into the final product.

And when our rock star team of vendors brought all their masterpieces into this dreamy venue, the end result was nothing short of perfection. Everything stayed within the neutral and organic theme that Kelsi had envisioned yet each element stood out — whether it was the dainty ranunculus nestled into the centerpieces created by Tiger Garden, the beautiful Victorian feeling chairs from A-1 Party and Event Rental or the light reflecting charger mirrors that were adorned with calligraphy by The ink Cafe. And all of the food and beverage elements were tied together using very natural and herb-inspired details. The Good Food Co., a bakery that creates made-from-scratch, locally sourced products, created an elegant, textured cake. Columbia favorite Peggy Jean’s Pies added to the multi-dimensional array of sweets offering guests fruit tarts, traditional peach pie, jar pies and more. bleu Events pulled out all the stops for a delicious surf and turf main course and amped up cocktail hour with herb-infused cocktails. To round out the food, miniature olive oils and vinegars were provided by Boone County Olive Oil that really emphasized the Tuscan inspiration.

The styling for the bride, groom and bridesmaid, while still natural, was a bit more glamorous, which was a nice contrast to the neutrality everywhere else. The bride’s elegantly beaded dress by Maggie Sottero paired well with a traditional cut suit for the groom from Bingham’s Clothing. Both the bride and bridesmaid’s look, styled by Jessica Jane at Once Upon a Bride, was soft and swept back, and the bridesmaid’s monogram necklace from The Southern Rose  was a sweet detail.

But my favorite part of the whole day had to be the way the couple looked at each other. No, it wasn’t actually their wedding day and yes, they had been together for seven years already, but they looked at each other with such love and admiration. The bride shared with me that at their wedding, their photographer was also a bridesmaid that stood up in the ceremony with them, so it was fun to be able for them to have a day recreated with Kelsi’s photographic eye and full attention. Plus, I love how Amelia and Steve stepped in as the bride’s parents and although they are not in anyway related, these photos make them look like they are!

I wanted to give a huge thank you to everyone who made this shoot possible. It truly was a team effort! A full list of vendors is below. For more photos, visit the journal on Kelsi Kliethermes Photography’s website.

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Photographer: Kelsi Kliethermes Photography LLC | Film Lab: The FIND Lab | Venue: Emerson Fields | Coordination and Design: Kristi Ruprecht| Floral Design: Tiger Garden | HAMU: Jessica Jane at Once Upon A Bride | Rentals and Tableware: A1 Party & Event Rental | Gourmet Catering and Signature Drinks: Bleu Events | Calligraphy, Invitation Suite, Menus, Bar Signage, and Laser Cut Design: The Ink Cafe LLC | Laser Cut Printer: Fab Station | Bridal Gown: Cleo Bridal | Gown Designer: Maggie Sottero Designs | Headpiece: J-Picone | Bridal Shoes: Bella Belle Shoes | Bridal Ring Set: Kas A Designs | Bridesmaid Gown: Morning Lavender | Bridesmaid Necklace: The Southern Rose | Groom’s Suit: Binghams Clothing: Columbia, MO Men’s Store | Signature Pies: Peggy Jean’s Pies | All Natural Wedding Cake: Good Food Co. | Olive Oil and Gourmet Vinegar Favors: Boone Olive Oil Co. | Table Runner: Silk & Willow | Styling Ribbons: @waltandlo | Ring Box: The Mrs. Box | Organic Seed Paper Confetti: Swoon Party Shop | Models: Dustin and Alycia Hale Maasen and MacKenzie Knierim

Careful Consideration

Photo compliments of Love Tree Studios

It’s been a while since I talked about an event-specific topic and since I’ve stumbled upon this a few times with clients lately, I thought I would put together a post. When you’re planning an event, you want the day to be about you: your wedding day, your milestone birthday, your retirement, etc. But in order to properly do so, you want to take into consideration outside factors. Let me explain.

In Columbia, it’s not uncommon for brides and grooms to wait to book their fall wedding until after the Mizzou football schedule comes out. To some people who aren’t from Columbia, this sounds crazy. But Columbia is the kind of town that completely revolves around the game on football Saturdays. Plus now that we have joined the SEC, you also have to think about hotel room availability, especially if you have a lot of out of town guests.

Or how about traffic and road closures. The country club I work at happens to be very close to the location where Roots ‘N Blues ‘N BBQ takes place. And each year, the roads are re-routed to improve the flow of traffic to the festival. But that means the normal route to the country club is closed off and routed a different way. You need to think about that in order to give your guests the best set of directions or at least a heads up, so they aren’t late to your celebration. Other examples of events that might re-route or cause traffic issues are races, concerts and parades.

Photo compliments of Silverbox Photography.

Parades tend to coincide with holidays, which is something else you want to take into consideration when choosing a date. Some people think it’s best to host an event on a holiday weekend because that usually means there’s an additional day off from work and gives people time to travel. Although this is true, in my experience, attendance is always down on holiday weekends. There’s usually multiple commitments on these weekends, family activities are a high priority and travel is more expensive.

Speaking of money, you also want to consider prices on holiday weekends. A lot of venues will have higher rental prices on holidays, or you might have to pay extra for additional staffing. Or how about floral prices that skyrocket around Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, etc? There might be some additional costs that will really break the bank when it comes to adhering to your budget.

These are just some simple reminders of things you might want to consider when picking a date. It’s easy to put blinders on and only focus on specific details when you really want the whole experience for your guests from travel to event to home to be positive!

 

Lessons Learned as a New Mama

Almost six months ago to the day, I was headed to the hospital anxiously awaiting the arrival of our little girl and about to enter into a new chapter of life. I was excited, scared and quite frankly, had no idea what to expect.

Since then, I have learned an awful lot about myself, life, our marriage and one beautiful little girl. So in honor of Mother’s Day, I’ve compiled a list of things I’ve learned thus far in my six short months as a mama-some serious, some comical and overall, a compilation of the last six months.

  1. The days are long, but the months and years are short. That statement could not be more true.
  2. It is possible for more than your heart to hurt for someone. In fact, your boobs can too.
  3. As much as you want to fill up others’ cups before your own, you have to remember to put yourself first from time to time.
  4. Motherly instinct kicks in even for the soundest of sleepers.
  5. Blow drying your hair is a luxury.
  6. Plans must be made in three-hour increments.
  7. Learn to laugh at yourself, even in the most ridiculous situations.
  8. There is no amount of spit up, drool, poop or pee that will ever phase you anymore.
  9. You will never forget the nurse who takes you to the bathroom for the first time after being in labor.
  10. Continue to live your life, and you will figure out how to do it with a baby, even if that means long car rides, airplanes, concerts, hikes, etc.
  11. Sucking snot out of your child’s nose with a tube is not weird but a frequent occurrence.
  12. You will learn to appreciate your own mother in so many more ways.
  13. There is an unspoken Mom understanding that all mothers secretly communicate during unfortunate situations.
  14. The “no shopping carts allowed in the bathroom” rule doesn’t apply to those pushing around a sleeping baby and shopping alone.
  15. Breastfeeding is hard. For something so natural, it’s not, but if you stick with it, it’s worth it. Your baby appreciates you.
  16. And on that topic, breastfeeding will completely deflate your boobs, but on the bright side it is the fat whisperer. Weigh the options.
  17. It is 100% OK to cry on your first day back to work after you drop your baby off at daycare. Almost everyone does.
  18. Make time for you and your husband because it’s easy to get put on the back burner.
  19. An SUV is absolutely necessary because when you travel anywhere, you basically pack up your entire house.
  20. You will learn the definition of “enjoy the small things” because even the smallest of changes and accomplishments will bring joy to your day.
  21. There is no better feeling in the world than a baby falling asleep on your chest.
  22. Their life has just begun but so has yours.

Product Pick: The Perfect Summer Shoe

I’ve found it! This one staple shoe (OK, maybe not only shoe since “one” and “shoe” never belong in the same sentence anyways…) is exactly what you need for the transition from spring to summer.

Introducing my new obsession, the Women’s Matti Heeled Buckle Ankle Strap Sandal from Universal Thread. First of all, can we take a minute just to applaud Target for its Universal Thread line? Seriously, if you haven’t checked it out yet, you need to. I own pretty much everything in it.

I own these shoes in olive, and they are perfect for every occasion and every situation. Since becoming a mom, I have really struggled with heels. I have always been a heel girl, but trekking down the stairs to daycare or getting up and down from the ground with a little one wearing sky-high stilettos isn’t quite as practical as it used to be. That’s why I love these sandals. They have that chunky heel that is very in with just enough height to make it feel like I am actually wearing heels (because I despise kitten heels), but they are comfortable enough to Mom so hard in.

And in addition to that, I’ve always had to rely on flats while working events because I average 15,000+ steps during large events, and heels just don’t work with that kind of mileage. But these! These are so comfortable and still offer the heel option.

They’re available in black and olive, but I love the olive because it serves two purposes. It’s just enough color to add a little pop to a monochromatic outfit but still neutral enough to wear with lots of outfits.

So, moral of the story is if you don’t own these, you need to go buy them!

Traveling With Baby

I’ve been a little quiet on here lately because….well, I’ll be honest, life. We traveled to Wisconsin for Easter, I’ve worked every weekend of April so far with wedding season hitting the ground running, we were in Orlando for a conference last week, you get the idea.

But after traveling with a little babe for the first time, I was inspired to share some ideas I had about traveling with a little one. Before we left, I scoured the Internet for any advice I could find from other moms and I’ve had lots of new mamas say they were headed on trips soon, so I’m hoping you can learn a thing or two from our travels.

How We Navigated the Airport:

1. First and foremost, make sure you pack your baby’s birth certificate! Even if they are traveling with you on your lap, you still need their birth certificate as verification. Had I not read this online, I would have never known this and we would have been screwed. You can also go ahead and add your little one to your reservation online prior to getting to the airport to speed up the process. But if you forget, don’t worry. You can also do that at the airport when you get the birth certificate verified.

2. We were headed to Orlando where we were going to be hitting up some of the parks, walking a convention center and being out and about a lot, so I wanted to make sure we were prepared. That meant a lot of carry ons and a lot of bags. We felt a bit like a three-ring circus but after arriving, we were so glad we lugged everything there, and we definitely weren’t the only ones.

We flew Southwest, which was great because each adult was allowed two checked bags and two carry-ons.

  • We packed P her own suitcase, one for me and one for Ryan, and we checked all three of these bags.
  • We gate checked her stroller and car seat (check out these great products to make this process much easier!)
  • Then, we carried on her diaper bag; another bag with some reading materials for ourselves (if we got a few minutes on the flight while P was sleeping), additional toys for her, my clutch  and necessities, such as gum, hand sanitizer, etc.; and lastly, my pump bag, which also had a mini cooler full of breast milk.

3. Security was actually a lot less stressful than I anticipated it to be. First of all, give yourself plenty of time when you arrive. We arrived 2.5 hours early, which allowed us to check in, get through a busy security line, feed her and change her diaper all before we had to board. While in line, I transferred P into our Ergobaby 360 carrier since we had to collapse the stroller. We sent the stroller and car seat on the conveyor belt, and I carried P through the metal detector. I made sure to mention to the staff that my bag contained a pump and breast milk, so they knew ahead of time that they would have to look through the bag and test the milk.

4. When you have a little one, you get to board relatively early, which allows you to have first dibs on seats and overhead storage and to get on the plane without people breathing down your neck. That was helpful to also feel very settled in prior to take off.

5. And finally, the take off. Obviously, the air pressure is something completely new to a baby, so make sure there is something for them to suck on while taking off. Whether it’s a pacifier, a bottle of milk or even your nipple, make sure they are swallowing to help with the change in pressure.

My Must-Have Products for Traveling With A Baby:

Keep in mind these might be specific to a warm location and not applicable to all destinations, but for a trip that included a pool, lots of walking and sightseeing, these were definitely my must-haves.

  1. Tommee Tippee Closer to Nature Travel Bottle & Food Warmer, Target, $12.59
    I’m not going to lie, this is pretty much a glorified thermos, but it has come in handy for both car tips and plane rides.
  2. Baby Trend Snap-N-Go Stroller, Target, $69.99
    This was a last-minute purchase I actually made through the Facebook Marketplace, and boy was I glad I did! My original plan was to bring our regular stroller, but I thought this would be super easy to use to navigate the airport and it ended up being great on all aspects of the trip. First, because P loves her car seat, so being able to pop the car seat on wheels kept her super comfortable. Secondly, it allowed us to transfer her from car to stroller even if she was napping without interrupting her. Lastly, it’s lightweight, adapts to a variety of car seats and was easy to fold up to throw the in the car and store in the hotel room.
  3. Bumbo Floor Seat, Amazon, $49.99
    Yes, pretty much everyone owns one of these, but it was not on my original packing list. Having this on the trip was great because it gave us a spot to set her down that still allowed her to play on her own and didn’t take up too much space in a suit case. It was also great out at the pool, which I never originally thought about. I was able to sit her on a lawn chair next to me in the shade while I got some sun. Plus, it’s waterproof and I was able to wipe it off after she had sat in it wearing sunscreen.
  4. Battery-Powered Clip On Fan, Target, $9.79
    I snagged this idea from another blogger, and I am so glad I ended up bringing one. It allowed us to be able to enjoy the pool or a midday walk, and P could nap or keep at a comfortable temperature.  With the battery operation, it was portable and we could use it anywhere. With the clip, I was able to clip it on her stroller, car seat, etc.

I read it on countless blogs, but I really didn’t believe it until I had experienced it myself. When traveling with a baby, you just have to roll with the punches. Take your time (by giving yourself a little extra time) and keep in mind that most people at the airport have been in your place at one point. We had tons of people who offered to help or gave me words or encouragement from their own experiences. We lucked out and Parker was great, so hopefully you have the same outcome with your little one!