The Transition

I officially finished my second week back to work after maternity leave, and we are getting the hang of things. I say we, but really I mean me. Parker loves daycare and is great with all sorts of new people. It’s Mom who has taken some time to getting used to everything.

Obviously, the hardest part about returning to work is going from being with my little peanut all day every day to spending 8 hours a day away from her. Luckily, we found daycare that I feel very comfortable leaving her at and feel she is truly getting one-on-one attention. Originally, I swayed toward an in-home daycare, but we ended up enrolling her in a daycare facility, and I could not be more pleased. Finding daycare was a nightmare, but that’s whole other post…

What I’ve learned, however, is the separation anxiety from being away from her is just the beginning of the at-home to work transition. It’s definitely not easy, but there have been a few products that have made it a little bit smoother.

1. Clothing: The healing process after childbirth is extensive. Whether you have a vaginal birth or a C-section, there are tons of changes happening with your body. Upon returning to work, I was still dealing with these changes. Not only was I trying to dress a body that I still wasn’t completely confident in, but my incision from my C-section was still very sensitive. Wearing regular pants was hard because the buttons and zippers would rub and make it uncomfortable. But I stumbled upon a pair of awesome pants at Old Navy that were professional looking for the office and comfortable enough to wear with a healing belly. Thank goodness elastic waist bands are in! The style is called The Stevie, which is stretch knit. I purchased a pair of burgundy pants and a pair of black and white polka dot pants, and I love them both

2. The Little Things: As if breastfeeding wasn’t enough of a challenge, keeping up with your milk supply at work is a whole other issue. Now if you’re fortunate enough to work at an office that has those fancy lactation rooms, this point might not apply to you. But coming from someone who pumps in a storage closet for a little privacy, I found just a little something that made me feel more comfortable about pumping at work. They are called Bella B Nipple Nurture Breast Wipes and make cleaning up after pumping a breeze. Plus, they make me feel refreshed before returning to my desk.

 

3. A Little Cuteness: I invested in a few extra cute and girly office supplies to get me excited to go to the office each day. I hung a new calendar that had monthly inspirations, and I started with a fresh legal pad that was decorated with flowers along the top. And each morning (that I don’t go to Starbucks), I bring my coffee in a color block Kate Spade mug.

The second challenge is our new morning routine. Let me preface this by saying I have never been a morning person in my entire life, and now I am learning to be one. Actually, I am learning to live on 5-6 hours of sleep a night instead of 9. I should be incredibly grateful that I am, yes, getting a full 5-6 hours of sleep a night with a newborn.

I used to be able to get up, shower, get ready and be out the door to work in 45 minutes. I had my routine down, and it was easy peasy every morning. Now, I block out about two hours to get out of the house. And this morning, I was still 15 minutes late. Why? Because everything is different with a tiny human. As much as you plan and prep, there’s always a hang up like the hiccups she got this morning right before I was about to put her in her car seat or the blowout she had the other morning.

And the third challenge, which I mentally addressed prior to her arrival but emotionally feel now that she is here, is weighing the pros and cons between working at staying at home. I truly don’t think I could be a full-time, stay-at-home mom. First of all, I give them a lot of credit. As wonderful as it is to spend all that time with your children, it’s a lot of work. There’s juggling the different schedules of multiple children and making sure you’re planning and executing quality, interactive activities. Not to mention unless there’s a Target run involved, she speaks to nobody over the age of her oldest child until her husband returns home from work. That being said, I also crave a schedule, getting up in the morning and going somewhere, and I have always been motivated to have my own career. But when you start looking at how much you’re paying for daycare and how many hours you are spending away from your little one, it just doesn’t seem entirely worth it. I work over a third of the month just to pay for daycare. that means I spend roughly 7 days of the month working just to be able to afford to be away from her during the work day. Seems a little messed up when I’m missing out on valuable time when she’s growing, developing and hitting milestones. Thus, I’ve decided in a perfect world, I would be a part-time working mom.

For now, it’s back to work full-time for me! As much as I miss Parker during the day, I am getting back to something I love. I love working events, I love planning and prepping, I love being creative, I love weddings and I love love. And that makes doing something so hard just that much easier.

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Let’s Try This Out

I knew this time would come. In fact, when I was naming the blog and brainstorming ideas, I wanted a name that was fun and attributed itself to event planning but was also flexible enough to include other content (shout out to Brenda for being the creative behind the title!) As you can see, the blog has a fresh, updated look and that’s because I’ve decided to expand Kristi Uncorked.

I’ve recently returned to work after maternity leave and am still immersed in the event planning world, but there’s a number of reasons I’ve decided to expand the topics beyond celebrations. First and foremost, I started this blog as a fun outlet that allowed me to consistently keep writing (I had a void in my life for this after leaving the magazine publishing industry). Secondly, I have consistently found myself reading the blogs and following along with the lives of women I don’t even know. Years ago, that would have sounded completely creepy, but blogging and the digital world allows for people to interact, relate and share stories or ideas even though you’ve never actually met (although I’ve been following some of these people long enough to feel like I live down the street from them). Especially with a new baby, I have researched and read more blogs than ever about dos and don’ts of motherhood, easy tips and tricks for mom life, etc. As I grow, learn and transition from life season to life season, I feel I have knowledge to share from my experiences that can benefit others. It might not necessarily be professional advice, but it’s real and true.

So with all that being said, I am so excited for this new transition! I will still very much focus on events, weddings and celebrations, but you will see a lot more personal posts and updates. As I sit here writing this, Parker (our newest addition to the family) snoozes beside me, and I can’t help but be excited to show her all the possibilities in this world. You can truly have a fulfilling life as a working mom with a fabulous social life, a welcoming home, philanthropic experiences, new adventures and still find time for yourself. You just have to want it.

Who knows if readers will continue to follow me or not, but I am excited to see where this takes us. As always, if there’s ever anything you want to know, need advice on or are just curious about, don’t be afraid to ask!

Instagram: @kristi_uncorked

XOXO, Kristi